E-disharmony.yuck !

“E-disharmony.yuck” is my current youth rally devotion series.
My aim is to dismantle so many of the nonsensical views that are
pushed on kids today as it relates to relationships, love, and sex.

I have no idea where your kids are on this subject but so many of
my students struggle in this area intensely.

The truth is it saddens me. Over the years I have spent in youth
ministry, I have been eye witness to so many kids making terrible
decisions in boy-girl relationships.

It is tragic that even the youngest teens have to wrestle with issues
about who they will “date” or how far they will go when left alone
with their boy or girl friend.

Young people are being left to make relationship decisions that they
are in no way emotionally, cognitively, or spiritually equipped to make.

I do not want to stand on a soapbox here, but today’s liberal media
is a monster in this area. The television shows and movies aimed at
the adolescent market are overflowing with story lines depicting
young people in sexual or near sexual relationships.

How many movies have the popular guy and the popular girl getting
together and driving off to do who knows what? Add to that the music
videos and the often crude and lewd lyrics of music piping through their
iPods and MP3 players.

Today’s teens are inundated with messages about relationships that
are very far from where the Lord wants them to be. A sinful world is
screaming to our teens, “If it feels good, do it!”

Meanwhile, way too many moms and dads have lost perspective on their
role as the stalwart defenders of their children’s emotional, physical,
and spiritual purity.

And despite their “I know it all” attitudes, the real victims are the
youth who really need to have some clear standards about how to live
their lives with a Christian view in a sinful world.

Youth ministries need to step-up, take a stand and do some good
teaching in this area of boy-girl relationships.

As I speak to youth leaders in different places, part of the problem
I see is we spend too much time teaching, “Don’t have sex until you are
married.”

That’s a great message but it is so much more than that!

When I teach on these topics, here are some questions/issues I try
to cover.

Maybe some of them will be helpful to you…

* How do I become the young man or young woman God wants me to be
so that someday I will attract the man or woman God wants me to
have? In short Stop Looking Start Becoming!

* What are the influences in my world which contaminate my purity?

* What the mind dwells upon, the body acts upon.

* Teach some Theology 101 Explain the Old Nature vs. the New Nature.

* Offer a prayer time where students will begin to pray for their
future husbands or wives.

* Teach about modesty in clothing. This is a huge issue! Maybe deal
with it on a guy/girl split retreat.

These are just a few thoughts. Let’s pray for our students as they
navigate this very difficult and turbulent ground.

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